Creating a ‘Bad Day’ Survival Kit

When It All Feels Too Much

There are days when everything hurts. Not just physically, but emotionally, too. The kind of day where your body won’t cooperate, your plans fall through, and even the smallest tasks feel impossibly far away. When you feel like you’re drowning in symptoms, emotions, and silence all at once. On those days, you don’t need to fix everything. You just need something to hold you. A soft place to land. A reminder that even here, you’re not alone.

Why Create a Kit at All?

A bad day survival kit isn’t about pretending everything’s okay. It’s not about “getting over it” or pushing through. It’s about preparing for the hard days with gentleness, offering your future self something comforting, supportive, and true.

When you live with chronic illness, bad days can appear without warning. A flare-up, a crash, a wave of pain or fatigue. It can leave you frozen, mentally and physically, and that’s where a kit can make all the difference. It’s a quiet promise: you deserve care, even when everything else feels unmanageable.

What to Include: Body, Mind, Heart

Your kit doesn’t need to be fancy. It might live in a drawer, a little box, a pouch, or simply a corner of your room that feels like safety.

For Your Body

Think heat packs, soft socks, compression sleeves, electrolyte sachets, anti-nausea bands, emergency meds, or a favourite blanket, the little things that bring comfort and calm. If you’re tube-fed, you might keep a few essentials nearby to avoid extra effort: spare syringes, giving sets, a top-up feed, wipes, or an extension set. Just having them within reach can make the day feel more manageable.

And don’t underestimate the power of loose, gentle clothing, the kind that doesn’t press on sore joints, tangle in tubing or stoma sites, or overwhelm your senses. What you wear can shape how safe and supported your body feels, especially on a high-pain day.

For Your Mind

Create a playlist, save a few voice notes from friends, download your favourite feel-good show, or have a simple distraction like a sensory toy, fidget ring, or grounding card. A printed list of self-soothing ideas can help when brain fog makes it hard to think.

For Your Heart

A letter from your past self. A favourite photo. A note from someone who reminded you of your worth. A quote that grounds you. This part is the soul of the kit, the thing that reminds you that, “You are more than this moment.”

There’s No Right Way to Use It

You don’t have to use every item or even use it at all every time. Sometimes, knowing that this kit exists is comfort enough. Other times, reaching for a single item like a soft wrap, a fan, a scent, can help you start breathing again.

This isn’t about “tools to bounce back” or being productive. It’s about letting yourself feel supported, even in the stillness.

What to Say (or Do) If Someone You Love Is Having a Bad Day

Watching someone you care about go through a bad day can feel helpless. But you don’t need to fix it. You just need to stay. Offer presence, not pressure.

Say things like “I can listen, or just sit with you, whatever you need.” Or “You don’t need to be ‘okay’ for me to stay, I'm here, no matter what today looks like.” Ask what comforts them, and if they don’t know, that’s okay too. When I’m overwhelmed, I often don’t have the words.

But the people who know me best? Sometimes they just know. They make a cup of tea, put on a calming playlist, or sit beside me with a hand on my shoulder. They remind me that I don’t have to hold everything together alone.

It’s not grand gestures that matter, it’s the gentle ones: folding some laundry when pain flares up. Running a bath. Sitting in silence or offering a quiet distraction. Choosing a film, lighting a candle, or just being there without needing anything in return.

Even when I push people away, it means the world when someone stays close, soft, steady, and patient. Sometimes what we need most is for someone to hold space when we don’t know how to ask.

 

Let It Be Enough

Your kit doesn’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have all the answers. Sometimes, coping means curling up in bed with a heat pad and letting the world wait. That still counts. You still count.

A bad day doesn’t make you a failure. It doesn’t undo your strength. Let your kit be a reminder: you are worthy of care. Even when you’re at your lowest. Especially then.

 

Final Thoughts

You are allowed to pause. You are allowed to fall apart. And you are allowed to come back slowly, gently, in your own time.

Even in the worst moments, you are still you. Still worthy. Still here.

Let’s find happiness, together.

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